Comfortable with NO

2 min readOct 26, 2020

Learning to say no more often

When you say ‘yes’ to others, make sure you are not saying to ‘no’ to yourself — Paulo Coelho

You might even consider saying, “hell no”.

It’s not a bad idea to prioritize yourself. In fact, that’s probably the best you can do in order to eventually prioritize others.

When your cup is full and life continuously pours, whatever is leftover can be shared with others. Whether that be your energy or financial security.

If you struggle to say no then you should look around at how many parts of your life deserve more of your attention. Especially if your struggle comes from guilt.

Guilt is a huge factor in unhealthy relationships — personal and professional. I would figure most of it originates from feelings of insecurity, which is okay.

People who claim to live a life free of insecurities are either lying or delusional.

Being insecure is being human. It means you have identified opportunities for growth. And to me, that’s a great place to be, because it’s the beginning of an adventurous journey, in which throughout that journey, you are making significant discoveries about yourself, and how you relate to what is outside of you.




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